Book Review: 90 Days in John 14-17, Romans, & James

imageOne of the most important aspects of the Christian life is staying rooted in the Word of God. The Scriptures are the basis of our faith and bring life to those who study and apply it. Yet, many believers would admit that it is a struggle to find the time in our fast paced society. Admittedly it is difficult. But we find the time for food, sleep, relationships, entertainment, etc. Even in our fast paced society we all find time for the things that are most important. If studying and applying God’s Word is a priority for us, we will find the time for it. The Explore by the Book series is a great resource to aide in personal Bible study. This new series published by The Good Book Company takes material from their Explore Quarterly series and adds space for journaling to better aide personal study. The newest volume in the series is 90 Days in John 14-17, Romans, & James by Timothy Keller and Sam Allberry.

 

Features of this Volume

The portion of the gospel of John chosen for this study is packed with practical truth. Sam Allberry refers to it as “Jesus preparing his disciples for the world we now live in.” This portion of John is centered around the time immediately preceding the crucifixion. It is the last time Jesus will see his disciples before his trial and brutal death. He is preparing them for the time when they will no longer have him, but promises to send the Holy Spirit to empower them to live all that he has taught.

The letter from Paul to the Romans is a deep well of truth based primarily on the church knowing, understanding, and applying the gospel message to their daily lives. Paul opens the letter by calling the gospel “the power of God.” He spends the rest of the letter unpacking the truth of the gospel that no one is good and all are spiritually dead in sin. Yet, the climax of the letter is chapter 8, which is riveted with the joy of the freedom found in Jesus.

The epistle of James is a practical letter written to Jewish believers scattered throughout the Roman Empire. He discusses topics such as true faith, taming the tongue, partiality, guarding against the false idol of money, and taking care of the vulnerable. This letter remains a relevant resource to the church today.

 

Features in the Series

* Daily Format: This series is set up for daily scripture reading on a quarterly basis. It is important for followers of Jesus to be in the Word daily. Just like we must eat food daily for physical sustenance, believers must feast on the Word daily for spiritual sustenance. The format is set up to allow for thirty minutes each day, which is doable in the midst of busy lives. But daily reading is also a commitment, but one that will prove worth it over time.

* Reading Portion: The series encourages reading significant portions of Scripture directly from one’s personal Bible or Bible app. This is important for two main reasons. (1) It allows the reader to cherish the Word and (2) it allows the reader to study the Bible in context. Many contemporary devotionals provide a small portion of Scripture which is most likely taken out of context. Most of the time is spent reading the devotion and not the Scripture itself. Resources that encourage reading significant portions of Scritpure daily serve the reader well. As the old adage goes, “You can give a person a fish and feed him for a day or you can teach him to fish and feed him for a lifetime.”

* Application and Journaling: The application questions and space for journaling provide an important aspect for daily Bible reading. Many devotions simply tell you what the author thinks about certain verse or topic and may even bring some encouragement, but it does not apply directly to the readers life. The application questions provide the opportunity for the reader to take what they just read and apply it directly to what is going on in their lives at the moment. This fosters growth and feasting on the Word. It causes one to cherish the Word more, when they see that it applies to their lives personally.

* Prayer: A crucial aspect of daily devotional time is prayer. Devotional reading is good, but one must take time and speak to the Lord about how that passage of Scripture is convicting, teaching, and growing them. The guided prayers printed in the book serve as a launching pad for deeper prayer and application.
I would personally reccomend the Explore by the Book series and specially this volume to anyone looking for a resource to guide them in personal study. The guided but flexible format allows the resource to be tailored to everyone’s learning style and schedule. It will take a minimum of thirty minutes each day, but on days that time allows one could spend extended time in study and prayer. This series is formatted for personal study, but it could also be used in a small group or Sunday School setting as well. I am personally thankful for the ministry of The Good Book Company, because they provide excellent resources for churches and individuals.

 

 

I received this book in participation with the Cross Focused Reviews blog tour program in exchange for an honest review of the book.

Learning to pursue the Caller and not the calling

23505897I love it when the Lord uses a book to speak straight to my heart the exact words I need to hear at a particular time. Some time back I was in a used book store here in Birmingham when a book caught my eye. The title was Called: My Journey to C.S. Lewis’ House and Back Again by Ryan J. Pemberton. I was intrigued! As I thumbed through, I realized that the book was a spiritual memoir about the author’s call to ministry, which involved him studying theology at Oxford in England. I knew that I had to buy it, because I myself have been struggling with my own calling and what that means in my life. I am glad I did!

Using the medium of story, Pemberton shares his experience with following the call of God on his life. For him the call meant leaving his comfortable job and studying theology halfway around the world in an effort to become a writer who relays spiritual truth in a way that the average person can apply to their lives. The journey took him from mountain tops, living in C.S. Lewis’ home; to lows, living away from his wife during their first pregancy. However, through it all, Pemberton reminds us that “being called by God…doesn’t mean being called to a particular job, school, or even vocation, so much as it means being called to surrender” (pg.237). The calling of God is about dropping our nets and following Jesus wherever he leads. Following Jesus is not easy and will cost us something, but in the end it is worth it because Jesus is always worth it!

Although the specifics of his story are different, the journey is the same. When the journey brought him to places he never imagined he would be, like waiting in line at the social services office. He asked himself the same questions that everyone asks when life does not turn out the way we’d hoped. Lord, did I hear you wrong? Am I not called? Did I misunderstand? Is this worth it? In the end, Pemberton discovers that the Christian life is not about pursuing a calling, but pursuing the Caller. His story harkens to what Jesus said in the Sermon on the Mount, “seek first the kingdom of God ships righteousness, and all these things will be added to you” (Matthew 6:33, ESV). When we pursue the calling above all else, it becomes an idol. Yet, when we pursue God above all else, we discover our true purpose, namely to enjoy God in personal relationship.

I loved this book because I read my story in Pemberton’s story. I have found myself in many of the same positions, spiritually speaking. His story speaks right to my heart because I fully understand the difficulty of leaving all to follow Christ. I have been where he was, ready to throw in the towel. Yet, hearing a story similar to mine, from someone who is walking the same journey reminds me that I’m not alone. It beckons me to stop and be reminded that God did not call me to serve Him, He called me to trust Him. For the first time, while reading this book, that truth made the journey from my head to my heart. My life may not end up how I envisioned, but all that matters is that my name is written in heaven and in that I rejoice.

I am thankful for Ryan Pemberton’s obedience to the call of God on his life. He truly is a wonderful storyteller! His writing is a gift from the Lord. He draws the reader into the story by making the reader feel what he felt and experience what he experienced. This book is a great reminder that the call to follow the Lord is one of adventure and is never dull! I highly recommend this charming memoir to anyone who has said yes to following God. It will remind you that you are not alone!

As a gift to my readers Ryan has graciously offered a signed copy of the book to be given away on this blog. The giveaway will be held from May 22 – June 5. More details will be forthcoming!

 

Book Review: Family Worship

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The practice of family worship is a concept that has become more popular among American Christians in recent years. However, the formal practice of family worship is rooted in ancient Christian History. Which means, that the practice was lost, at least in part, for a few generations of modern Christians. This begs the question, what is family worship, why is it important, and how do we restore the practice in the modern church? That is what Dr. Donald Whitney discusses in his new book Family Worship, published by Crossway.


What is family worship?
According to Dr. Whitney it is the daily worship of the Lord within a family unit. In his book Dr. Whitey outlines three essential parts to family worship that can be practiced daily. First, read the Scriptures. Whitney encourages the man of the house to either read or delegate the reading of Scripture every day with his family. This also includes a short discussion of the passage read to help the family understand the implications of the passage and how to apply it to daily life. Second, pray with your family. Family worship must include the crucial practice of daily prayer. This can be done by one person or by multiple members of the family. The point is to pray for the needs of the family and the application of the Scripture passage read that day. Third, sing together as a family. Whitney encourages family worship to include the practice of singing at least one song of praise to the Lord. This can be accomplished by singing to a recording, playing the song with a family instrument, or by singing a capella.  Throughout the book Whitney drives the point home that family worship is as easy as read, pray, sing.


Why is family worship important?
First, worship in general and family worship in particular is important because God alone deserves to be worshipped. The Lord is great and glorious and is deserving of our worship and adoration. Second, family worship is important because it brings the family together for a common purpose, namely to worship the Lord. In a society where families are increasingly busy with work, school, sports, and a host of other distractions, family worship is a time where families can unplug and spend time together with the Lord. Third, family worship is important because it is a great way to facilitate discipleship. As the family reads and discusses Scripture it allows parents to grow their children in the knowledge and application of biblical truth. It also instills the importance of prayer in children and models the practice for them.

Although the local church can help in many of the same ways, and it is important to gather regularly for corporate worship and discipleship, it is not the primary role of the church to raise a family. The role of the church is to equip and encourage the family to worship the Lord and grow in discipleship. Discipleship happens in every day life. The family is only at church gatherings a few hours a week. The church cannot possibly properly disciple families in that limited amount of time. Unfortunately, over the past few generations we have seen the family place that primary responsibility of discipleship onto the church, which has fostered the “professionalism of ministry” and brought on the rise of church programs to handle the discipleship of families. If the family worshiped together and discipleship happened in the home, the church could go back to its original role of equipping families to worship and disciple in the home.


How do we start the practice of family worship?
Many young Christians did not grow up in a family that practiced family worship. They do not feel equipped to start the practice in their own family. The simple answer is start today! Consult resources such as Family Worship. Also trust the leadership of the local church to guide and equip you to begin family worship in your home.

I fully enjoyed reading Family Worship by Dr. Donald Whitney. It has helped equip and encourage me to start the practice in my own family. I would recommend this book to every pastor and church ministry leader. Read it and start using it as a resource to equip the families in the local church. I also recommend it to Christian men. This is an excellent resource that can you begin today, this important practice of family worship.



I received this book through the Crossway Review program “Beyond the Page” in exchange for an honest review of the book.

Book Review: Under Our Skin

41juk4cD7TL._SY344_BO1,204,203,200_Racism. This is a word that conjures up deep emotions from everyone in this nation. Whether you are black or white, Asian or Hispanic, we all deal with this issue on a daily basis. Truthfully, racism has been an issue in the world since human beings fell into sin. However, in America racism finds its roots with the institution of slavery, which was established during the infancy of the nation. This “mighty scourge” of slavery continued to haunt America into the nineteenth century, which culminated in the Civil War and the abolition of slavery under the leadership of President Abraham Lincoln. Yet, even after the official abolition of slavery, racism was deeply woven into the fabric of America. In the twentieth century a new form of slavery was instituted in what is known as the Jim Crow laws of the South. These laws did not allow blacks and whites to have equal rights. This helped give rise to the Civil Rights Movement of the 1960’s and brought popularity to charismatic leaders such as Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. and Malcolm X. Eventually, the Jim Crow laws were done away with and black citizens were given equal rights under the law. However, as far as this nation traveled in two hundred years, racism still existed.

Fast forward fifty years and many of the same issues that existed in the 1960’s had not gone away. Even though many things had gotten better, unfortunately many of the racist attitudes were swept under the rug. The rug was then yanked back to expose the filth underneath in the twenty-first century. Events in Ferguson, Baltimore, Charleston, and others exposed the mighty scourge of racism once again. Unfortunately, in some cases, this led to riots and looting, which did nothing to solve the issue. These events left many Americans wondering “can we now finally deal with this issue once and for all?” This is what author and New Orleans Saints football player, Benjamin Watson discusses in his new book Under Our Skin, published by Tyndale House.

In the aftermath of the events in Ferguson, Benjamin Watson decided to write a Facebook post that put to words the range of emotions that he felt. That post went viral and has culminated in his new book Under Our Skin. In the book, Watson expresses those emotions by starting each chapter with an “I am” statement. He then unpacks that emotion and why he feels that way. For many, this book will read like a rant and in many parts of the book it does. However, in many ways, Watson has the right to rant a little. As an African American growing up he experienced much of the same hatred towards him as did Michael Brown, Freddy Gray, and many others. He is tired of seeing racism reign in America. His subtitle tells it all “getting real about race and getting free from the fears and frustrations that divide us.” He does get real in his description of the problem. He shares stories and quotes statistics that the media and politicians quote as well. However, the main difference in Under Our Skin is the solution that Watson proposes.

Watson points the reader to the only solution for the race problem and its not better education, policies, laws, or politicians. No, in the book he bluntly reminds the reader that the “skin” problem is ultimately a “sin” problem. Each and every person, no matter the color of their skin, is a sinner and that is the root cause for every issue in society. Yet, he does not stop there. He eloquently reminds the reader that the only solution to the sin problem in the world is Jesus Christ, who died in place of sinners on the cross. Those who place their faith and trust in Him will have changed hearts, which will lead to reconciliation.  Instead of adding to the problem by retreating to our own sides, it is best to show one another the grace that Christ has shown us. By the power of the Holy Spirit, open up dialogue and get to know others from another race and culture. This allows fear to subside as we realize that many of the fears we have about others is trumped up by our own imagination. The only solution to the problem of race in America, and the world for that matter, is the gospel! And the only way to share the gospel is to open dialogue which can ultimately bring healing.

In the spirit of full disclosure, I was interested in this book initially because I am a huge New Orleans Saints fan (Who Dat!), and love Benjamin Watson as a football player. He is an amazing athlete and has brought a great dynamic to the Saints football team. However, after reading the book I have an even greater respect for Benjamin Watson the man, not just the football player. This book opens up some much needed dialogue about race in America. My prayer is that as people read this book the Lord will prick their hearts, like He has mine and help bring healing. I have seen first hand how the Lord has brought racial reconciliation in my own life after dialogue on this issue. I highly recommend this book to anyone who desires to see the gap closed in the racial divide.

To help keep an open dialogue about this topic, please comment below. 

I received this book from Tyndale House Publishers as a member of the Tyndale Bloggers Network program in exchange for an honest review of the book. 

Book Review: God at Work: Your Christian Vocation in All of Life

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What is God’s will for my life? What is God calling me to do? I know that every Christian has asked those two questions a thousand times. What do those two questions reveal about the heart? It reveals that everyone, no matter if they are a follower of Christ or not, wrestles with this idea that they were born for a purpose. Many people spend their entire life trying to figure out their purpose. Why is that? A.W. Tozer would argue that we all search for our purpose, because God has innately wired us with a specific purpose in life, namely to worship Him(The Purpose of Man, Bethany House). The Protestant Reformers agree with that as well by stating that man’s primary purpose (or chief end) is to “glorify God and enjoy Him forever.” This is what Gene Edwards Veith, Jr. ties together in his book God at Work published by Crossway.

In the book Veith describes what he calls the “doctrine of vocation.” Namely, this is the biblical teaching on how God works in the world. He defines the doctrine of vocation as the way in which “God has chosen to work through human beings, who, in their different capacities and according to their different talents, serve each other.” This means that God has designed human societies to work in such a way that, when functioning properly, our individual gifts, skills, and abilities are used for the common good. Think about it for a moment. Our cities and communities function best when every citizen is doing their job well. That means everyone from the mayor, city council, teachers, doctors, lawyers, and business owners, give to the common good of the city for it to prosper.

However, to put it the way Veith does in chapter one, “sin spoils everything.” Now because of the Fall, human beings do not always seek to use their talents for the common good, but their individual gain. This causes crime and injustice to flourish. Yet, there is a better way. As followers of Christ who have been redeemed by His blood to live for His glory, we can help make a difference in our community by the way we live. The Lord has gifted and called every believer to glorify Him and serve others. He has given each of us specific talents, skills, and abilities in order to serve the common good.

Some might read the previous statement and assume that the Lord called every believer to serve in vocational ministry. That is not what Vieth is saying. He is actually advocating for the opposite. Biblically speaking, yes, every believer has been called as a missionary. But that does not mean that every believer is called to leave everything and go over seas to be a “missionary.” In fact, the Lord has gifted and skilled us to serve as missionaries in a myriad of ways. Wherever their is “work” to be done, the Lord has called someone to go as a missionary. This means that he calls people to be doctors, teachers, business owners, retail workers, lawyers, servers, and yes pastors. Where has the Lord called you to serve?

Vieth explores five ways every believer has been called to serve in the world. First, he explores our calling as a worker. In chapter five he argues that “a Christian and a non-Christian may labor side by side in the same job, and on the surface they are doing exactly the same thing. But work that is done in faith has a significant difference than work that is done in unbelief.” When we do our work in faith for the glory of God and the good of others, it helps put our work into the proper perspective. Yes, we have to work in this life to make a living and provide for our families. But, our work does not define us…it does not save us. As followers of Christ, we rest in His finished work and trust that he will and has provided for our every need. Our work then becomes not a way for us to succeed and make a name for ourselves, but a way we glorify God and serve others. A right perspective changes everything!

Second, he explores our calling in the family. For married believers, this means that the Lord has called us to lovingly serve our spouse. Husbands, God has called us to love our wives and point them toward the gospel. Wives, God has called you to lovingly serve your husband and point him toward the gospel. For married couples who are parents, the Lord has given you children to raise up as a new generation for Christ. Parents are called to lovingly nurture, guide, and discipline their children in the gospel. For children, God has called you to lovingly obey your parents and trust their leadership in the home. Truthfully, our family is the primary ministry to which we have been called.

Third, he explores our calling as a citizen. Biblically speaking God has called people from every nation, tribe, and tongue. So, the way in which we live out our calling a citizens looks different in every culture and society. For some people, the Lord will call them to be leaders in their local government. They are to serve the community well and lead toward justice. For regular citizens, the Lord has called us to humbly submit to the leadership he has placed over us according to the law of the land. However, this does not mean that we follow blindly. Sometimes leaders do not fight for justice. For citizens in free countries it is our responsibility as believers to fight against injustice and seek the wellbeing of our community. This means that unless our government leaders do not go against God’s law, we are called to humbly submit.

Fourth, he explores our calling in the church. Not everyone is called to be a pastor or church leaders. However, every believer has a way in which they can serve their local church well. Every local church needs people are willing greet people as they walk in the door on Sunday morning, work in the nursery, teach a class, help with administration, lead a small group, or help setup and break down (for church plants). But there is also need for encouragers, discernment, and pastoral care. The important thing is not what role you play, but the fact that everyone is need to help the church continue in its mission. There is nothing less God honoring than an apathetic church. The Lord has called every believer to play an important role without which the local church cannot properly function.

God at Work is a highly practical book! I recommend this book to anyone struggling with calling and ways they can serve in their job, family, community, and church. I recommend this book to pastors and church leaders to use as a way to disciple the whole church in the doctrine of vocation. Everyone in the church will benefit from reading this book.

I received this book through the Crossway Review program “Beyond the Page” in exchange for an honest review of the book.

Book Review: Compassion Without Compromise

compassionUnless you have had your head in the sand for past few decades, you know that our culture is engaged in a great debate about sexual identity and ethics. This has caused tremendous issues for the church as it seeks to stand on biblical truth but at the same time engaging the culture for the sake of the gospel. Sadly, sometimes, Christians and churches can go to extremes in their stance on the sexual discussion in our culture, specifically as it relates to homosexuality. The first extreme is a hardline stance towards homosexuality. People holding this stance tend to be “bible bashers” who wield the Bible as a sword of destruction on the homosexual agenda. In the process many people are hurt by the church and hold a negative view towards Christians. The second extreme is a softer stance towards homosexuality. People holding this stance are “open and affirming” who oftentimes disregard the biblical stance on sexual ethics.

Many in the church simply hope that the issue can be resolved with legislation and having the right politicians in office. Some are “dooms-dayers” who think, like Chicken Little, that the sky is falling and the end is near. But the fact is this issue is not going away, nor is legislation and politics the answer. So, this leaves many Christians wondering “What does the Bible say about homosexuality?” and “How can we hold a biblical stance on this issue while engaging the culture with the truth of the gospel?” This is exactly what Adam Barr and Ron Citlau discuss in their new book Compassion Without Compromise: How the Gospel Frees Us to Love Our Gay Friends Without Losing the Truth published by Bethany House.

Both of these pastors have real credibility on this issue, especially Ron, who struggled with homosexuality before he came to Christ. His story is a wonderful testimony to the power of the gospel of Jesus Christ to save anyone who is far from God. In the book they unapologetically stand on the biblical ethic of sexuality inside the bonds of marriage between one man and one woman for life. They also do an excellent job of diagnosing the heart of the issue, which is sin, but also describe the remedy which is Jesus. “The hope for the sexual sinner is not a psychological breakthrough or great cognitive behavioral therapy, or even Christian practices. The great hope for the sexual sinner, what will begin to set things right, is to catch a glimpse of Jesus.” Jesus is the answer for all of our sinful struggles whether they be sexual or otherwise.

The truth is “all have sinned and fallen short of the God’s glory” (Romans 3:23). Yet, Jesus met us at our lowest point and showed us his grace as a free gift. How often we forget that truth! It is so easy to judge people in their sin and forget the ugliness of our own sin that Jesus paid for. Jesus is the only remedy for the human condition! I truly believe that the way the culture will view the church in the future will be greatly influenced by the posture that the church has towards the homosexual issue. If the church has a “holier than thou” attitude that it has had in the past, the culture will continue to ignore the church and we will have no influence. However, if the church holds a posture of humility as sinners saved by grace, we can earn a hearing with our culture for the sake of the gospel.

I highly recommend Compassion Without Compromise for any pastor, small group leader, and disciple maker that is serious about making a dent in our culture for the sake of the gospel! In the days ahead every believer will be asked to pick a stance on this issue. Don’t bury your head in the sand! Get prepared, this book is a great resource that will point you in the right direction.

More resources for further study can be downloaded at http://www.compassionwithoutcompromise.com/index.html 

 

 

Marriage Lessons from a Godly Grandmother

This post was originally published by Servants of Grace on September 22, 2014 in their “Singleness, Marriage, and Parenting” series.

 

by Zach Kendrick

Have you ever heard someone say, “They just don’t make things the way they use to?” This statement is usually made about cars, houses, washing machines, and other equipment. This example also applies to marriage, since it seems today people don’t take marriage as seriously as they used to. At the root of marriage being attacked and redefined, in my view is people not taking the covenant of marriage seriously.
Recently, my wife’s grandfather passed away at the age of 83. He and my wife’s grandmother had been married for fifty-five years. Marriages lasting that long are almost unheard of today. It’s a miracle if they last ten to twenty years. My wife and I were blessed with opportunity to spend substantial with her grandmother during the time her grandfather was in the hospital before he passed away. As we talked with her she shared with us four lessons on marriage and how to make it last.

First, the key to a lasting marriage starts with the right perspective. My wife’s grandparent’s got married rather young according to today’s standards. My wife’s grandparents resolved early on that marriage is meant for a lifetime. You and I live in a culture that emphasizes instant gratification and convenience. If you don’t like a product you throw it away and buy another one. Most companies have a money back guarantee, so you can get your money back if you don’t like it. This is not how God designed marriage to operate. Genesis 2:24 states, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” My wife’s grandmother held to what the Bible teaches and stayed by her husband’s side until the day he died. There were days, she admitted, that he drove her crazy but she took her promise seriously and remained faithful to the end.

Second, she told us that, “sometimes you just need to be by yourself.” Being one flesh doesn’t mean spending every moment together. Every couple needs personal space. Sometimes, as my wife’s grandmother admitted, a married couple needs some time alone. Time alone allows you and I relax and enjoy our respective hobbies. My wife’s grandfather was a farmer. Her grandmother was a housewife. She spent her day cleaning the house and making sure the home was in order. She admitted to us that she loved being a housewife. This allowed her time alone to think and pray. You may not have time at work to think and pray, but everyone needs some time alone. I encourage you to find a hobby that allows you time alone to reset.

Third, she told us, “In marriage, if things go fifty percent your way, consider yourself blessed.” We are selfish creatures and we all want our own way. When I first heard this advice, my first thought was “not everything is worth fighting for.” Married couples will not always agree. There will be times when you do not get your way and times when you do. It’s not worth trying to force your way onto your spouse. Learning to work through issues in your marriage is crucial to having a healthy marriage. Paul says in Philippians 2:4, “Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.” When we seek to serve our spouse, we are seeking to love them like Christ.

Fourth, she reminded us “One day problems in marriage will seem small.” This statement is absolutely true! The problems you face in marriage right now will not always be a problem. Understanding and applying this truth will allow your marriage to have staying power. Many marriages allow trivial problems to drive them to divorce. Resolving to stay together and work through issues in our marriages instead of retreating from them will result in a stronger marriage. My wife’s grandmother admitted that through the years her marriage had its problems. After fifty-five years of marriage though she told my wife and I that none of that mattered, as they loved one another. Here’s the key for our marriages: Focus on the big picture. Don’t allow small problems to drive a wedge between you and your spouse. In other words, don’t make the problem bigger than it needs to be. Communicate with one another and work on your issues head on with God’s help and if needed the help of your local church.

Learn from those who’ve been married a long time
There is much to be learned from those who’ve been married for a long time like my wife’s grandparents. They have the battle scars of life, which testify that they made it through difficulty. If you are single, I encourage you to seek out a godly man or woman who has been married for at least twenty-five years and ask them questions about marriage. If you are engaged, seek out a godly couple that has been married for at least twenty-five years and ask them questions about marriage. There is wisdom is listening to those who have made it through the fire. If you are married and are contemplating divorce I encourage you to seek the counsel of a godly counselor. Do not give up and remember, the problems you face today will one day seem small.

This post is dedicated in honor of my wife’s grandmother, Maxine Jones. Thank you for the godly example of a faithful marriage. May Courtney and I heed the advice you have given us with your life!